Learning to be a single mum
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September Musings. Learning to be a Single Mum.

Estimated Reading time 2 and a half minutes (plus a minute of cute video)

This has been another difficult month, and again, I have learnt some hard lessons. Number one being I cannot be a single mum and a super mum, and that is fine. This month I kicked off my new business which you can read about here. We also moved out of our depressing and damp unit and into a gorgeous bright and freshly renovated one. I hired 2 men and a truck for a few hours and did the rest myself. I think I overestimated my capabilities that weekend. I was beyond exhausted and then got ill. 5 days of bad gastro and the flu. I won’t gross you out with the details but it did force me to rest and think about what I can and cant do. I am a single mum so sometimes things are going to be less than perfect. I am also going to have to ask for help when I need it instead of hoping it will just arrive. I will also accept it when it is offered and I will offer help when I can. I think, as mums we like to be the martyr, and that is not good for anyone. 


Reading: Didn’t get to read much this month with the moving and the flu Ariel absolutely loves Hairy Macleary from Donaldson’s Dairy and we have to read it every single night. She has started to ‘read along” with me at the exciting parts which is fun and makes me laugh.


Eating: Self feeding has started…… yuk!


Hating: Getting run down. I am going to look after myself better and take more time out to rest on a regular basis. I can do most things I want to do, I just need to learn it is a journey and not a destination.


Loving: My new place. What a difference it has made. I have made friends with all the neighbours and now have a support network in place in case I get sick again. It will be great to have someone to watch over Ariel so she doesn’t have to sit in the high chair for hours again watching tv while I vomit every hour….

Ariel’s dancing. It never fails to warm my heart!



  • kim burgess
    Posted at 09:45h, 30 September Reply

    You are amazing – Ariel is such a lucky ducky to have you. I am sure there will be times when you feel urgh! and then little Miss Ariel will start dancing and your heart will sing again. Single maybe but not alone. Hugs and kisses to you both.

    • Raylene Barton
      Posted at 09:48h, 30 September Reply

      Thank you so much Kim. Isn’t she a good little dancer? Thanks for reading and thank you for your support. Hugs and kisses back!

  • lesa wright
    Posted at 22:21h, 30 September Reply

    Im new to all this but im.not a single mum but i feel i do a majority of the workload of our girls hospital visits and other things i have to organize. ..i love reading and seeing all things about Ariel as i find myself lost at times especially where and when to ask or start things for our girl Kahlani’s progress , i give you a thumbs up and a a gracious smile with a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen

    • Raylene Barton
      Posted at 05:45h, 01 October Reply

      Thank you so much Lesa please don’t be afraid to reach via PM. I also offer a shoulder to lean on and an ear to listen xx

  • Amy @ Handbagmafia
    Posted at 09:33h, 03 October Reply

    Being a single mum is tough, I remember it well. But it’s also empowering in a way and nice to be able to go your own way. Aries is gorgeous 🙂

    • Raylene Barton
      Posted at 09:34h, 03 October Reply

      Yes thank you Amy. Getting through months like these is empowering and October is great so far. 🙂

  • Amy @ Handbagmafia
    Posted at 09:34h, 03 October Reply

    *Ariel- sorry for the autocorrect!

    • Raylene Barton
      Posted at 09:35h, 03 October Reply


  • Laney@thelaneyfiles
    Posted at 12:29h, 03 October Reply

    Glad you’re feeling better. It must be SOOOO hard to be sick when you’re on your own. Little Ariel is gorgeous, I’m glad she likes the new place.

    • Raylene Barton
      Posted at 12:51h, 03 October Reply

      Thank you Laney! It was a rough couple of weeks but we are doing really well now! X

  • Kate Parker
    Posted at 14:31h, 03 October Reply

    I’m in awe of single parents. You are truly amazing!

    • Raylene Barton
      Posted at 14:52h, 03 October Reply

      Thank you so much! I have an amazing daughter who makes it worthwhile 🙂

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