16 Jul Mummy Guilt.
Estimated reading time 4 minutes
I am currently on a mummy guilt trip and it is awful. (I am pretty sure it is not fun for anyone). I haven’t been blogging much lately because of it. It is hard to be creative with such negative feelings like these.
It is really hard being a single mum. It is really hard having a part time job, and a business and be a single mum. I feel very stretched to be honest. I was told the other day, when I was complaining, that I was in this position because of the choices I had made. Mmmmmm, do people really think that due to a couple of choices I made I am in this position? Surely not….
There are a lot of factors that can lead people to their situation. People often find themselves having to choose between 2 unfavourable situations. We should not be so quick to judge the decisions of others unless we have walked in their shoes, as the old saying goes.
I feel like I am not being good enough mummy because I am always rushing, always busy, and I am tired and I often use the iPad as “creative play” for Ariel. I feel like I don’t spend enough time with Ariel and I sometimes my fuse is short. I wish I could be better….
I did a quick google search on mothers guilt and there are LOADS of blogs on the subject. Here are just a few memes I can across
There is even a Mum guilt bingo…..
Obviously, it is a thing felt by all mums. Guilt is not healthy, and of all people, the Mums should not be the ones feeling guilty. And what is with mums guilting other mums? We all need to stop that now. Last night I finished the first chapter of The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and I have learnt a few things. One, people like to hook other peoples attention and spread poison about others to make their opinion right. Your opinion is nothing more than a point of view. It is not necessarily true. And two, we have to be impeccable with our word and that starts the the words we use with ourselves. We only let others treat us as we treat ourselves. Once we stop tolerating the negative self talk (self abuse) we won’t tolerate abuse from others. So, I am going to try and take it easy on myself. I am doing pretty great under the circumstances. My family are in another country and seems all of my friends live interstate. Im pretty much alone these days, I should be giving myself a pat on the back not a kick up the butt! I should be encouraging myself with praise not criticism. No one likes to be criticised.
I am going to review this book once I finished it as it is really making sense to me so far. I plan to read it over the next week to help me get off this quilt trip.
Do you suffer mummy guilt? How do you cope? x