20 Oct Lessons from Ariel III
In the last 4 months since I last wrote a lessons from Ariel post I have learnt the true meaning of unconditional love. We all try and love others unconditionally but the reality for most of us is that it cannot be forced. If you google unconditional love this is what comes up first.
Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations. It can be also love without conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism, complete love, or “mother’s/father’s love.”
1. Before Ariel was born I loved her and after the diagnosis (which was literally immediately after she was born) the love did not change. It was the mothers love. But obviously dealing with the diagnosis did require some strength. Telling people was the first real challenge. I am on facebook and Instagram and have lots of friends on there. I posted photos of my pregnancy so naturally photos of the baby were to follow. I used to try and choose photos of Ariel that least showed that she had DS even after I had introduced the diagnosis through the blog. Now I love the photos that show those little DS characteristics in her face. That is who she is and I love her … unconditionally. As she has grown and I see her play and laugh and cry I love her for who she is. She is Ariel. She participates in life and she wants the same things as other babies. She had Down Syndrome and she always will and love all of that. There is no limitations.
I can across this wonderful quote through a blog I subscribe to Downs Side Up
“The world has a fast-growing problematic disability, which forges bonds in families, causes people to communicate in direct and clear ways, cuts down meaningless social interaction, pushes people to the limit with learning about themselves, whilst making them work together to make a better world. It’s called Autism – and I can’t see anything wrong with it, can you? Boy I’m glad I also have this disability!”
Patrick Jasper Lee
2. Keeping it real and being assertive is something I am really embracing lately. I am now learning to trust my own judgements without being affected by the opinions of others. I am doing a great job with Ariel if I do say so myself. She is meeting milestones, she is very social and happy and she is very healthy. I am learning to raise the bar with this little girl cause she has my determination. I have been a little guilty of underestimating her in the past and she surprizes me every day.
Ariel and Joe getting ready for the Step up for Down Syndrome charity walk.
Here is a cute video of her playing candy crush with her daddy.