10 Jun Lessons from Ariel II
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I never knew I wanted a child with Down syndrome until I got one. – See more at: http://www.scarymommy.com/child-with-down-syndrome/#sthash.hZ73OSJR.dpuf
I never knew I wanted a child with Down Syndrome until I got one.
….because it does change things – forever and for the better. I won’t lie to you, I still do shed tears from time to time and I can’t even explain exactly why. But I do get to learn a lot of things about myself and others. I am not perfect but I am functioning better because I am learning more. Here are some of the latest lessons learnt.
Lesson 1. I (we) need to stop using the word retarded. I often refer to things and people as “being retarded” Sometimes it is joking and sometimes it is not. I am quite ashamed of myself actually. It is derogatory and not acceptable and I need to stop it now. I hear people doing it all the time as well and often the voice used cruelly mimics that of a person with a disability. It would be hurtful if Ariel heard it in the future I would imagine.
Lesson 2. Be careful what you say to people about people with disabilities and children with disabilities because they might have a child with a disability in the future and they will remember what you said.
Lesson 3. It is true what they say. In tough times you will learn who your friends are. I like learning this as I now know who to spend my time with and who to devote my energy to. I need a network of strong supportive people around me and that is what I have got. I am very grateful for this and although I am sad to see a few people go I am not sorry. I actually don’t have time for complainers or people who live unhealthy lives and cause themselves to get sick. It may sound harsh but I guess it is because Ariel did not choose to have Down Syndrome and there is no cure. It is permanent and we can’t change it. But we can still have a great life. We can make the best of our situation and be healthy. Be grateful for your health people and treat your bodies with respect.
Lesson 4. Being mindful. Over the last few years I have tried to meditate and be mindful in what I am doing. It can be quite difficult and I didn’t really do that well with it. Being a working mum and having a child with special needs is certainly teaching me the importance of it. Without being mindful of the task at hand my stress levels get too high. I think it doesn’t matter what the plans for the day are, concentrate on the task at hand and stay in the moment.
Who knew this is how I would finally master this…. Thank you Ariel!
Did you learn anything from these lessons? I would love to know. Please leave a comment about it in the comments box. Thanks for reading xx