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Counselling for Carers.

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I guess it’s no secret that I have been struggling along for the last few years. I have tried my best (and actually have done more in the last year that what I have in the 5 before) but a few weeks ago it all got on top of me and I broke down. I finally had to admit to myself I can’t do this alone and I needed help, and fast. I had just spent 3 solid days crying, weeping in fact. It’s not about 1 thing in particular but an accumulation of things and not dealing with the actions of some people as well as I would like.

Luckily, after doing a clean up a few weeks ago, I kept a leaflet that I found. I did almost throw it away but something made me keep it (thank you universe).

Carers NSW info leaflet

Counselling for Carers NSW info leaflet

 

After a chat with my beautiful Mum, we both agreed I needed to call the number and so I did.

Best Decision Ever

Why did I not do this earlier???????

The lady on the other end of the line was sooooo nice. We chatted about my situation and what I needed. She said she had a few counsellors in mind that were close to where I lived and said someone would contact me shortly. Unfortunately it did take a few weeks for someone to contact me as the original person she had in mind was too busy and didn’t respond to her immediately. Luckily I had already been to see my doctor and started anti depressants. Yes, Im on anti depressants and I’m putting it out there because of the stigma’s associated with depression and how they stop people from coming forward to help. There is no shame in admitting you are not coping and you need help, so please if this is you please seek the help!

I had my first session last week and it was excellent. I have an excellent counsellor who helped me to see the things I was doing that were preventing me moving forward. I thought I knew myself inside out but I actually made a discovery that day that has been a tremendous help to me. I also get to go away with things I can implement straight away, and I have. And, Im feeling much better! We looked at my network and what help I actually had. I’m now going to start accepting help instead of carrying the load alone. We worked out what reliable help was and what wasn’t and to remove unreliable people from my life. I actually have more freedom than I thought which was one of my main concerns. Obviously change takes time and practise, but my counsellor said I was a fabulous mum and I was going to be ok. In fact, more than ok and I was very close to being there. This also gave me motivation.

I have 6 sessions through Carers NSW and we will be doing ACT which is Acceptance Commitment Therapy. I will let you know how it goes. If you are a carer and you feel overwhelmed please call Carers NSW on 1800 242 636. If you want the name and number of my therapist please email me on info@arielsworld.com.au

 

 

Acceptance of where you are is the first step

Acceptance of where you are is the first step

salt yoga room

I have started a 6 week yoga course. Doing things for yourself is very important. The breath work in yoga is very beneficial. This is a himalayan salt room at the Salutary Five Dock. I am in love with this place and will blog about it soon

me on bayrun

I love early morning walks. Making time for the things you enjoy is important. x

 

 

4 Comments
  • Kitty
    Posted at 10:41h, 05 March Reply

    Fantastic post, self-care is so important and caring for others is tough. Thank you for sharing your story, I appreciate it xo

    • Raylene Barton
      Posted at 10:46h, 05 March Reply

      Thank you Kitty and yes it really is important! Im going to keep posting about it because so many people (mums and carers especially) neglect it. Myself included. thanks for reading xo

  • Lucy Pai
    Posted at 04:38h, 07 May Reply

    Just started reading your blog. I’m a first time mum and struggling but you’re my inspiration . There’s no doubt you’re doing an amazing job looking after beautiful Ariel, but sometimes we do forget ourselves.
    I hope it brings you a little joy to know there is someone out there who hopes to do as good a job as you raising her child x

    • Raylene Barton
      Posted at 10:09h, 13 May Reply

      Oh Lucy your comment just made my day. Thank you so much. I am sure you are going to be an amazing mum. xo

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